Hello, suitable singles. Let, me share something with you that happened a few years ago. I had been nurturing my hair after a season of hair loss that had happened three years prior. I was caring for my hair and giving it all the attention that I could. I lost a huge amount of hair using a hair product that was really good, but not suitable for my hair type. I never expected to wake up one morning to see that I was almost bald. Honestly, I didn't see it coming. There was no mounds of hair in my comb, or on the floor, it was as if my hair just dissolved away. It was gone! And I was distraught!

 

After the shock and having to cut the few strands that were left, so began the three-year trek of re-growing my hair. Long hair doesn't run in my family, it had taken me over 20 years to get mid-back length hair, and now I was beginning again. When my grandchildren first saw me after the cut, their mouths fell open in dismay. "Grandma, what happened to all your hair?" my granddaughter gasped touching the shortened version that I hid under a wig.

 

After three years, I let the wigs go and began wearing my hair again, but this time I had changed hair products more suited to my hair type and texture. It grew beautiful and full. But within a few months, I looked in the mirror to see that I had breakage all over my hair, from the roots to the ends. I never saw my hair fall out, but it was gone. Why? How?

 

After a few weeks passed, in prayer, the Lord revealed that I had recently began using a new hair care product. When He revealed this to me, immediately, it hit me, "Oh, no!" I ran to read the ingredients. It was a different product; however, it had the same ingredients as the former product that damaged my hair before.

 

After I went back into prayer crying and repenting for messing up God's hair again, I heard Him gently remind, "New doesn't mean better." And then in God form, He illustrated a valuable lesson. One that bears hearing. He began to illustrate to me that in our new season of mating, we must be aware not to choose the same kind of unsuitable mate wrapped in the form of a new person.

 

Listen, it happens, more times than we care to discuss, but since this is what I was called to, let's talk about it.

 

Right actions, can sometimes produce wrong outcomes. It doesn't mean that you need to fear the mating process, you don't if you're prepared for it. Remember this, God and you are in this together. He is your partner assisting you in partnering. In the beginning you may meet some people who just don't seem right for you. Or you may decide to date or mate with someone that seemed right but wasn't suitable to you. It's okay, to make small mistakes on your mating journey, but it's not okay to make such a mess of your life that you regret your decisions. Keep in mind that we are the common denominator in our relationships. If we have 20 failed relationships or 10 failed marriages, guess who must take ownership? Us! You! Me!

 

Nobody ever said mating is easy, but now since we know better, we can choose better because we are better. Therefore, our relationships should reflect our wisdom and growth. Take it slow and enjoy the process, unless God says otherwise for His purpose. Sometimes love can happen fast, but most of the time it is walked out one day and date at a time.

 

I am praying for your mating success. Please pray for mine too. Knowing what is right to do is different than doing what is right. For my sister's, look at his leadership. How he leads his life will be how he leads yours. For my brothers, watch how she cares for her home. How she takes care of hers will be how she takes care of yours. These are basic mating fundamentals, but as a couple you can negotiate your responsibilities. However, they should not deviate from God's design for the headship and help-mate responsibilities.

 

Just a reminder, you are choosing a life partner, not just a casual fling, or temporary relational place holder until you meet the right kind who is your right suitable one. Please don’t play with peoples lives or emotions, it may cost you in the end.